Solvang, CA asked in Divorce for California

Q: Should I do as he is requesting

20 yrs married we have 2 daughters 12 and 13 1 17 yr old son tsp over 400k during his career we moved 5 times and I stayed home with my daughters. however he doesn't want me to mess with how retirement. And the custody of the kids.. he has them I have no means or enough to support myself let alone have my kids .We agree with most everything else and the term if the custody of the kids I don't fully want to agree with because he want legal and physical custody where before it was joint . I cant really afford an attorney but I find myself just saying on but I dont want to make the wrong decision.

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Angelina Bradley
Angelina Bradley
Answered
  • Monterey Park, CA
  • Licensed in California

A: You really need to speak with an attorney to discuss the consequences of agreeing to everything he asks for. California is a community property state. You’re in a long-term marriage. I would hate to see you put yourself in a position that puts you in a worse place than where the law would put you if you asked for basic support and let the judge decide.

Contact an attorney. Many offer free consultations. Some, like me, offer payment plans. With the income differential, an attorney fee contribution is a good possibility.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Good luck.

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