Lodi, CA asked in Divorce for California

Q: My divorce is almost complete, I don't want her to use my last name anymore, how do I do that, is there a certain paper?

I just turned in my "Schedule of Assets and Debts" paperwork...

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Tobie Brina Waxman
Tobie Brina Waxman
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  • Culver City, CA
  • Licensed in California

A: You can’t force her to change her name.

Maurice Mandel II
Maurice Mandel II
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  • Newport Beach, CA
  • Licensed in California

A: I see that you posted this twice. My additional thought is that the "green poultice" can have many healing effects, and if you offer some to her, for her to sign a request to restore her maiden name, maybe, just maybe, she will do it. But then you have a quandary about how valuable is your name? If you say it is very valuable, that means you pay her $$$$$. If you offer only $, it indicates that you don't value your own name very much. Divorce and family law is a weird place, people try to get back at each other for the darnedest things. If she thinks the name really means a lot to you, she may want to hold it hostage and demand you pay her the $$$$$ and not the $. Of course if you act like it is nothing, she may just keep it, even if she doesn't want it. "Oh, what a tangled web we weave........."

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