Q: I am contemplating leaving my husband. Is there a basic beginning to starting this process?

A: You need to gather all of your financial information and then consult with an experienced family law attorney in your area. Here are some steps you can take:

1. Organize Your Financial Documents

List Your Assets and Debts: It’s important to have a comprehensive list of your assets (such as bank accounts, retirement accounts, real estate, and vehicles) as well as any debts (like mortgages, loans, and credit cards).

Secure Your Financial Records: Please gather copies of key documents, such as tax returns, pay stubs, bank statements, loan agreements, investment accounts, and retirement funds. Ideally, we’d like records covering at least the past three years.

Document Your Income and Expenses: Tracking your household and personal expenses will help us create a clear picture of your financial situation, which is crucial in establishing your financial needs and contributions.

2. Develop a Post-Divorce Budget

If you haven’t already, take some time to project your monthly expenses after the divorce. This can help us in discussions around spousal or child support, and ensure that you are financially prepared for the transition.

3. Consider Living Arrangements and Custody Preferences

If there are children involved, start considering custody preferences that prioritize their best interests, as well as practical aspects of parenting time, such as school and extracurricular activities.

A: Speak to an attorney if you are ready to file for divorce. If you are able to pay a retainer they can represent you and let you know the divorce process.