Q: Seeking advice on custody rights and response after ex-fiancée filed for sole custody and child support.

A: If your child has been in Oregon for three years then Oregon has jurisdiction. I recommend you reach out to an Oregon family law attorney for a consultation.

A: It’s important that you prepare to respond quickly, even if you haven’t been officially served yet. Once you are formally served, the clock starts ticking on your deadline to file a response with the Oregon court. You’ll need to contest the sole custody request if you want shared custody or visitation rights. Since your child has been living in Oregon, that state likely has jurisdiction, so you’ll need to respond through their family court system—even if you’re in Ohio.

Gather and organize all of your evidence: screenshots of her prior intentions to return, any proof of your involvement in your son's life, your mother’s notes from the visit, and the false claims made online. Courts focus on the child’s best interests, especially with a child who has special needs. Show that your home is safe, stable, and supportive, and that you're capable of being a consistent, caring parent. Avoid attacking her character; instead, stay focused on your relationship with your son and how you’ve tried to stay involved.

You may also consider filing for custody or visitation through Oregon's court once you’re served, making sure to follow all required procedures. Keep communication civil, and continue documenting everything. It’s overwhelming, but you’re doing the right thing by preparing. Your presence in your son's life matters, and the court will take that into account if you respond thoughtfully and within the timeline.