Portland, ME asked in Child Custody for Maine

Q: Ex can no longer pick up our child during one of the court appointed visits. Do I have to give him a new day and time?

Current schedule

Every other weekend and every other Tuesday night.

He can no longer pick up our child on the Tuesdays and wants to now have her.

Every other weekend and every other Friday night. He would have her every weekend at this point and not allow for me to have her during a full weekend. I do not want to allow this as I have activities with her on my weekend.

Thank you

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1 Lawyer Answer
Edward Chris L'Hommedieu
Edward Chris L'Hommedieu
  • Divorce Lawyer
  • Lewiston, ME

A: Simple answer - the Court Order controls.

That said, my #1 rule in family cases is "be nice". If you can accommodate a different schedule it is the moral thing to do. If the other party is being entirely unreasonable, then you don't have any obligation to accommodate them.

Just ask yourself this: "If I was in their shoes, what would I hope for, and is it reasonable?"... and think about the child. What do they want?

There's a lot at stake here - a child that needs both parents.


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