Hermiston, OR asked in Divorce, Family Law and Child Custody for Oregon

Q: Do I have to contact the other parent for a time to pick up his kid, if he does not call or text for his parenting time?

I’m amidst a divorce and last weekend (we have a ex parte temporary order of restraint-kids in my custody) he had our daughter for the weekend and our ten month old son he only kept for 1 1/2 hours of his 2. He was sleeping and my daughter answered the door for the 8 am, which was answered at 8:30am, pick up on Sunday. It’s Saturday, his day of 2 hours of parenting time, 9:16 am and haven’t heard when it is he wants his son because the order does not specify a time. What do I do? Call him so he can will show up? Not coach him to be a parent and just allow him to make the choice to remember?

1 Lawyer Answer
M. Nicole Clooten
M. Nicole Clooten
  • Divorce Lawyer
  • Pendleton, OR
  • Licensed in Oregon

A: This is a tricky situation. On one hand, you do not want to be the parent who is not facilitating a relationship between the child and the father, but if he really wanted his time, he would be more communicative. He needs to be the adult in the situation and make the effort in my opinion. I would text him with a time that works for you weekly and ask him to let you know if that won't work at least a day in advance, and to schedule a different time with you. That way, you can let him know that you plan to follow the plan, but that he will have to take steps to schedule a different time with you.

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