Q: How much trouble could I get in if I contact my ex girlfriend?
My ex broke up with me. I sent her messages daily about the way she treated me from early May to late July. She did go to the Police near the end but nothing happened. She showed up at my moms house with her friend and one of them threw a flower pot at the house. She then changed her phone number. About a month ago I went to her house. First time I have had contact with her in 3 months. She shut the door and I left her a packet explaining my side of this relationship and why I think it is wrong that she keeps the money my dad gave her which I plan on having a talk with my dad about. I plan on contacting her one last time by mailing her a letter that is an ultimatum. The ultimatum states she can call me on a private number and listen to me talk for an hour or so OR I will have my mom file the charges for the Malicious Destruction of Property that happened back in late July.
Could she file charges on me for like stalking? What is the worst that could happen? A restraining order?
A:
You need to rethink your approach here. You - not her - will end up with the short end of the stick here. You could find yourself subject to a PPO, or worse, being arrested.
Look, the relationship ended; it's unfortunate that apparently she is unwilling to hear you out and bring a more proper closure - it happens. Move on! Obviously there is nothing you are going to say that's going to change her mind.
Likewise, threatening her with criminal charges - or an ultimatum as you say - will accomplish nothing. First, the police and prosecutor determine whether charges are filed, not your mom. She can make a report, but if this all happened in July, the police may wonder why it's being reported now. And if no evidence exists now, you can't expect a prosecutor to pursue charges. If charges came about, a defense attorney may question your mom's motive, which would be tied to you.
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