Parent withholding 18-year-old child’s social security card and photo ID

Question

My younger sibling is 18 and graduated high school but is still living with our mom. 
 
My sibling doesn’t have a job or bank account yet. My sibling has a PA photo ID, but our mom insists on keeping it in a “safe place” because she wants to control my sibling. (She refuses to accept that my sibling is nonbinary and doesn’t want them to update their photo ID to show their preferred name.) Same with birth certificate and social security card; she won’t even let my sibling learn their ssn. 
 
I know from similar forum posts that the simplest solution is for my sibling to request their own copy of their ssn card. But can they do that if they don’t have their photo ID or know their ssn? 
 
Our mom seems willing to let my sibling borrow their photo ID and ssn card for a job interview, but will likely demand them back after my sibling gets set up at their new job. My sibling could write down their ssn in that scenario, but they might need to know their ssn sooner (e.g. to register to vote.)

James L. Arrasmith · Answer

Your sibling can request a replacement Social Security card by providing documents to prove their identity, such as a passport or driver's license. If they don't have those documents, they may need to contact the Social Security Administration for guidance on alternative methods of verification. Additionally, they can inquire about their Social Security Number (SSN) through the Social Security Administration to regain access to that information.

Q: Parent withholding 18-year-old child’s social security card and photo ID