Can I submit documentation to the judge amid a divorce with a no-contact order?

Question

My son is in the process of divorcing his wife, and there is a no-contact order between them. The divorce was filed in July 2024. I am the intermediary for child pick-up and drop-off. My son has filed all required documents, including a financial affidavit, but his wife has not filed any paperwork despite a request from his attorney for her to produce documents. No further action has been taken to address this.

I am concerned about our grandchild's well-being, as his mother isn't dressing him appropriately despite my son providing ample clothing and shoes. Recently, the school contacted her for permission to meet with my son regarding school matters, highlighting issues with his access to information.

Additionally, my son is confused about child support payments. He prefers to pay through the court to ensure payments are recognized as child support and not gifts, but no guidance has been given, given the no-contact order.

Can I submit a letter to the judge documenting these concerns and conversations?

Regina Irene Edwards · Answer

No, you cannot submit a letter to the court.  You son can address any concerns he has with his attorney.

Joshua Schiffer · Answer

I concur with my colleague and advise you to work with and through your sons attorney, as while the Courts do appreciate the additional perspective of grandparents, the communications must respect existing orders regarding contact and it is best practices to ensure compliance rather than risk violation.   
 
Your son's lawyer will hopefully appreciate your efforts and include them in the overall advocacy.

James L. Arrasmith · Answer

You can submit a letter to the judge documenting your concerns, but you should do so with caution, especially given the no-contact order between your son and his wife. It’s important to follow the proper channels for submitting information to the court, and you should check with your son's attorney first to ensure you're proceeding correctly. They can guide you on how to share these concerns in a way that complies with the court’s rules. 
 
Your concerns about the child’s well-being, including issues with clothing and communication, are important, but they must be presented in a way that supports your son's case. If there are specific incidents that affect the child’s safety or welfare, make sure to include details and any evidence you have, such as communications from the school or other parties. 
 
Regarding child support, your son should continue to work with his attorney to ensure payments are properly documented and handled through the court. If he prefers to pay through the court system, this can be arranged, and his attorney can help clarify the process. Ensure all communication with the court is done through the proper legal channels to maintain the integrity of the process.

Q: Can I submit documentation to the judge amid a divorce with a no-contact order?