Q: Should i invite my father, who had disowned me as a daugher, to my high school graduation? he's currently divorcing mom.
My mom and dad are getting a divorce. and the divorce is really nasty. he doesn't obey the court's orders to support me and has completely disregarded my needs. should i still invite him? or will it be used against me?
A:
This is a touchy subject. In a typical settlement agreement, the Plaintiff and Defendant agree to keep the other notified of any activities, such as graduation, that the children are involved in. If your parents have not yet gotten a divorce and dad is not invited to the graduation, he could always use this against mom. That does not necessarily mean that it would hurt mom, but once again, he could definitely try to use it against her.
Divorce is always hard -- especially if there are children involved. I once heard a judge say that in a divorce, it does not matter how it turns out for the Plaintiff and Defendant.... If there are children involved, the child ALWAYS loses.
If your father was a bad parent, let your mother take care of it. If she is represented by an attorney, I would let that attorney decide what would be best for you/your mother do. If dad has been physically abusive, it may be best that a PFA be filed against him which would prevent him from being within so many feet of you and your mom.
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