Q: Preparing to Separate. Married 38 years. Primary breadwinner. Husband retired military, chooses not to work.
I don't want home. I don't want his retirement. I don't want to pay support or lose my retirement. How do I proceed?
A: This issues in a divorce and legal separation can be categorized into assets, debts, maintenance (or alimony) if it applies, and child support and custody if you have minor children. There is a good way to approach resolving these issues, and there are not so good ways. Litigation can be very expensive and pits spouses against each other. Many times the best way to proceed is to seek out a divorce attorney that also offers out-of-court dispute resolution alternatives that are lower in conflict and more structured ways of problem solving. Divorce mediation and collaborative divorce services are two lower conflict methods of resolving your issues. I recommend contacting a divorce attorney in your area that offers one of these alternatives and speak to them about which way to proceed could benefit you in your situation.
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