Q: With Covid19 in effect what are the legal guide lines for phone hearings? Why are they not recorded?

A: Of your list of grievances, the only one that seems to be a possible infringement of your rights was the denial of your right to argue on your own behalf. That is a procedural due process right IN GENERAL for pro se litigants in hearings, with some exceptions. Relief for a trial court judge's violation of such right may be sought in the appellate court.

For recording a hearing, usually a court reporter must be ordered in advance by any party, whether the hearing be in person, phone, or videoconference. You could have asked the Court in advance for permission to record. Even if the Court would have allowed it, though, an appellate court would probably not listen to the recording; you would have to have a court reporter transcribe it. The appellate rules also permit the parties to stipulate (agree) to facts of lower proceedings that were not transcribed, so if you were to succeed in getting opposing counsel to agree to your version of what was said and not said, you probably wouldn't need a transcript in support of an appeal regarding that point of contention.

Regarding the lawyers and judge addressing each other by first name, that would be highly unusual here in the South Fla. Tri-county area where I am, but don't know about Collier. In any event, that alone would not violate any rules or support a motion for disqualification of the judge. Something more would have to be proven to show bias - either judicial comments explicitly reflecting bias, or something in the background of the relationships. A private investigator could attempt to dig up such information, but if you can't afford an attorney, you likely can't afford a private eye, either.