Q: Can a child choose to live with dad. Even though he is on supervised visits issued by a judge.

A: Possible? Almost everything is. Advisable? Probably not unless dad is a year sober. Legal? You have already set a precedent by allowing variations from the court order. If dad petitions the court, he could possibly get more visitation than the current order but it is much less likely that he would be awarded primary custody absent a finding that it is in the child's best interest. If dad is still an alcoholic, that would be a tall order.

You do not really indicate your position regarding the situation. If you are asking if you can just throw your child to the wolves and allow them to live with their alcoholic father, then the answer is sure, you CAN do a lot of things. If your child is abused, neglected, injured, or killed due to the inability of your alcoholic ex to "adult," you could be held accountable for failing to protect your child.

Teenagers are difficult to deal with when you have two parents who are working collaboratively to do so. You are in a most unenviable position. If the dad continues to struggle with addiction, you should attempt to comply with the court order as much as possible. The guilt you will have to endure if anything happens to your child while with dad unsupervised will be immense. If dad is making progress and staying sober, it would be a lot more reasonable to consider unsupervised visitation and/or primary custody.

A: I'm having a sense of deja vu with this question. Possible? Almost anything is. Advisable? That depends on whether dad is still an alcoholic. If dad is still an alcoholic, mom lets the 14 year old go live with him, and anything happens to the child; mom could face both civil and criminal consequences.

The court ordered supervised visitation for a reason. If circumstances have changed, the most appropriate course of action is to petition the court for a change in the custody orders.