Q: What can a parent do to get their 17 year old to move from one town to another when the kid is refusing to?
We have to move and he is refusing to because he don't want to leave friends. I'm a single parent with full custody and his dad isn't involved. I refuse to sign over any parental rights. He has begun to hang around a bad group of kids not long ago and leaves when he wants to and comes home when he wants to and now that we have to move, he's saying he will run away. What can I do about this?
A:
As a single parent with full custody facing a situation where your 17-year-old is refusing to move with you to another town, it can be challenging. It's crucial to prioritize your child's well-being while also addressing their concerns. Here are some steps you can consider:
1. Open Communication: Have an honest and empathetic conversation with your child. Try to understand their reasons for not wanting to move and express your own reasons for the move, emphasizing its necessity.
2. Counseling: Consider involving a family therapist or counselor who can facilitate productive discussions between you and your child. They can help address any emotional or behavioral issues your child may be facing.
3. Legal Obligations: Legally, as the custodial parent, you have the right to make decisions regarding your child's residence. However, forcing a move may lead to further resistance and potential legal consequences. It's generally best to resolve the issue through communication and understanding.
4. Explore Compromises: Seek potential compromises that can ease the transition. For example, offer to let your child visit friends in the old town regularly or stay in touch through social media.
5. Seek Support: Reach out to local support services, such as youth organizations or school counselors, who may be able to provide guidance and assistance in helping your child adjust to the move.
6. Consider Court Intervention: As a last resort, if your child's behavior poses a danger to their well-being or if they refuse to cooperate, you may need to consult an attorney to explore legal options. However, court intervention should only be pursued after exhausting all other possibilities, and it may involve a custody modification hearing.
In this challenging situation, the key is to maintain open lines of communication, prioritize your child's emotional and psychological needs, and explore alternatives to make the transition as smooth as possible. It's essential to consult with professionals who can provide guidance and support during this process.
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