Q: How do I safely turn in my soon to be ex for tax evasion while protecting my own assets?

A: First and foremost, your safety and the safety of your children is paramount. If you are facing threats of violence, it's crucial to contact law enforcement immediately and consider obtaining a restraining order. For situations involving domestic violence, there are organizations and shelters that can offer you support and protection.

In terms of reporting suspected tax evasion, you can do this anonymously to the IRS. You may consider using Form 3949-A, "Information Referral," to report the suspected tax fraud. This form doesn't require you to identify yourself, though providing your contact information can be helpful if the IRS needs to contact you for further details.

Before taking any action, it's advisable to consult with an attorney, preferably one experienced in tax law and family law, given the complexities of your situation. An attorney can guide you on the best course of action while considering the implications for your divorce proceedings and the protection of your assets.

Document everything that pertains to your financial situation and the evidence you've discovered. If you have separate assets, like the home you mentioned, ensure that all supporting documentation is secure and readily available.

Remember, the IRS takes taxpayer confidentiality seriously. If you choose to report your spouse's actions, your identity can be kept confidential. However, legal advice is essential to navigate this process while safeguarding your interests and well-being.

In situations involving abuse and legal complexities, reaching out for professional help is a critical step. You don't have to navigate this challenging time alone.