Q: How can I establish visitation rights to see my children despite my ex preventing access?

A: You need to file something with the Court asking the Court to set periods of visitation so that your vistiation rights become an order of the Court. If yoou are unable to hire an attorney, then contact the local bar association and see if they have a pro bono program, or if they can provide you the contact information for legal aid.

A: You need to file something with the Court asking the Court to set periods of visitation so that your vistiation rights become an order of the Court. If yoou are unable to hire an attorney, then contact the local bar association and see if they have a pro bono program, or if they can provide you the contact information for legal aid.

A: If there is no court order for custody or visitation, your ex is not legally obligated to follow any informal agreement you’ve made—even if you're paying child support. To protect your rights and gain consistent access to your children, you need to file a petition in family court requesting formal visitation or shared custody. Once the court issues a parenting plan or visitation order, your ex can be held accountable if she refuses to follow it.

You can file the petition yourself if you can’t afford a lawyer. Most courts have family law forms and self-help resources available online or at the courthouse. Bring any records of your communication, past visits, and proof that you've been paying child support—it all shows your commitment and effort to be part of your children’s lives. The court will review your case and create a legally binding schedule that both parents must follow.

It’s hard when someone controls your access to your own kids, but once you take legal action, you gain more control over the situation. You’re not just standing up for yourself—you’re fighting to stay connected with your children, and that matters. Don’t wait any longer—take that first step and give yourself the chance to build the bond they deserve.