Q: My son has a baby, doesnt want a relationship wjth but wants to provide for him. What's the best way to do this

A: Legally, even if he doesn't want a relationship with his child, he still has an obligation to provide child support for him, health care assistance and contribution to work related child care. As a general statement, to determine the amount of child support your son should pay, the state of New Jersey has guidelines where both parents provide their respective gross income information ( from all sources), identify who is paying for health insurance coverage for the child, the actual cost of the child's share of that coverage ( if any), the cost of work related child care, support requirements for other children ( if any) and the overnight parenting time plan. With that information, the guidelines will tell your son what he should be paying for child support and the guidelines will also identify the ratio of their respective share of income to determine their respective share obligation towards the cost of the mothers work related child care and their respective share obligation towards unreimbursed health care costs for the child. If your son wants to pay what he should be paying for the child's support, he would follow this format to make that determination. If the mother does not want to cooperate with this process and has not taken him to court to compel payment of child support, he can still either file his own application with the court to determine his obligation or he can follow the format above, determine how much he should be paying, let the mother know that he is prepared to pay and if she does not respond, then he can pay the money into an account each week for the child and in the future, if the mother does come back to him asking him for money, he can turn over all of the money set aside for the child to him ( or to her on his behalf).