Q: my daughters dad has told her on at least 2 occasions to lie to me. I have written proof. Is this parental alienation?

A: Thank you for your question. It sounds like it is very stressful not to have much decision making in your child's life. Proving parental alienation is a complex, and largely undefined endeavor. It sounds like you might want to make a motion to change parenting time or custody. That process might involve hiring a custody expert who would do evaluations of both parties and interview the child,.

The best thing you can do is consult with an experienced family law attorney. You will receive guidance and advice tailored to your specific situation. You can also go over all the options and potential outcomes. That way you can make an informed decisions as to how you want to move forward.

A: The difference between alienation type behavior and estrangement type behavior has to do with the reaction of the other parent to the setting. You believe that your ex is willfully assisting in driving the wedge between you and your daughter. Yet, if you file an application with the court, your ex will simply claim that the issues outstanding are caused by your / your actions. So... my suggestion is that you write a series of text messages to your ex (politely and in a positive way) identifying your concerns about your daughter's negative actions towards you (do not accuse her of being a liar or acting like him) and asking him to cooperate with your intent to retain a reunification therapist for you and your daughter to assist in rebuilding your relationship. Presuming you are correct about your ex, then he will reject your request for assistance. I would then take your text messages and his response to an experienced family law attorney to discuss the filing of an application with the court for the appointment of a reunification therapist for you and your daughter and you then get to use his refusal to cooperate to assist the court in understanding his role in this setting.