I have a child custody. I have no lawyer, my ex does, I normally got my kids ( 2 girls - boy. Ages are 13, 14 and 9)

Question

I was asked to go to a emergency court date, So I went and I had no say. I got supervised visits, had to do counciling. I haven't had a day to pick them up,  
It's been over 1 1/2 -2 years without my kids.  
Cps never came to the house to see how the kids live when I have them. Everything was hearsay. 
 
A few weeks before the court date, my ex asked if she can have 100% custody and I'd get no more payments to Child Support.  Then my oldest asked if she can govtov2 birthday parties.  I said no because it's my weekend and I made plans. She said she got sick. My oldest text someone and flat lied about how I treated the kids. Well it was sent to a person who was a mandatory reporter.  
 
I want my kids back. How do I do that? I'm financially unable to pay a lawyer.

James L. Arrasmith · Answer

I understand that you are in a difficult situation and want to regain custody of your children. Here are some steps you can take: 
 
1. Legal aid: Look for free or low-cost legal services in your area. Some organizations offer pro bono work for individuals who cannot afford a lawyer. Contact your local bar association or search online for legal aid clinics near you. 
 
2. Self-representation: If you cannot find affordable legal help, consider representing yourself in court. Research your state's family law and custody procedures. Visit your local law library or use online resources to learn about the legal process and how to present your case effectively. 
 
3. Document everything: Keep a detailed record of all interactions with your ex-spouse, children, and any relevant parties. Save text messages, emails, and any other evidence that supports your case. Create a timeline of events and gather any witness statements if possible. 
 
4. Comply with court orders: Follow all court-mandated requirements, such as attending counseling sessions or supervised visits. Demonstrate your commitment to your children's well-being and your willingness to cooperate with the legal process. 
 
5. Communicate with your children: Maintain open and age-appropriate communication with your children, focusing on their emotional well-being. Avoid speaking negatively about your ex-spouse in front of them. 
 
6. Seek support: Reach out to friends, family, or support groups for emotional support during this challenging time. Consider seeking counseling for yourself to manage stress and maintain a positive outlook. 
 
7. File a motion: When you feel ready, file a motion with the court to modify the custody arrangement. Present evidence of your compliance with court orders, your strong relationship with your children, and any other factors that demonstrate your ability to provide a stable and nurturing environment. 
 
Remember, the court's primary concern is the best interests of the children. Stay focused on their well-being and present a strong case for why you should have more custody. Be patient, as the legal process can take time, but persistently advocate for your rights as a parent.

Q: I have a child custody. I have no lawyer, my ex does, I normally got my kids ( 2 girls - boy. Ages are 13, 14 and 9)