Q: Can I have a boyfriend during a divorce? It's a sticky situation and my ex could be looking at jail time...
Basically, my ex has done some pretty awful things, I'm talking child porn awful.... Molested my little cousin awful.... We've been split for a few months and currently I have a PO against him for the safety of my children. I've recently met someone new and we've developed pretty strong feelings for one another. We've been dating secretly for a little while, but I'd like to at least tell my family. My kids have met him under the pretense that he's a friend, not a boyfriend. I'm not willing to give him up as he makes me feel safe and treats me extremely well. I've been out of love with my ex for a long time due to the fact he raped me, and has groped several of my friends. This new guy treats me well, shows respect for my time, space, and need to put stability before romance. He has a clean record, is doing well with college, etc. Any advice on how to keep this relationship without it being damaging to my custody battle? Is it even legal to have a boyfriend during divorce?
A: You are allowed to have a boyfriend during a divorce. With the facts you presented I would certainly recommend that you hire an attorney. It would not be the best idea to live together during this time and sometimes the judge will even issue a court order saying you cannot.
Gary Johnston Dean agrees with this answer
Based upon what you have told me the facts are, I think it's OK, just don't start living together. You should hire an attorney to help you quickly get rid of this bum of a husband, for your sake, and that of your children. I hope you have done so by now, since you asked this question a while back.
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