Mother-in-law disrupts my life by living in my condo for more than 6 months at a clip after being away briefly.

Question

In 2015 my wife submitted an affidavit of support for her mother but due to her low income, I had to give her a supporting affidavit of support. In 2016 my mother-in-law came to the US. Ever since she has been here, she has created a lot of rift between me and my wife.  
She lives for more than 6 months at a clip in my condominium and then goes back overseas briefly and then comes back again. I have a 3-bedroom condo and besides me and my wife, I have 1 daughter and 1 son. I don’t have to accommodate 5 people in a small place. 1 room is for my daughter, my son sleeps on the couch and my wife and I are in one room sleeping on 2 twin mattresses. 
Since 2016 this woman has occupied the master bedroom which has a king-size bed in it. 
I told her several times not to come here but she bullies me and threatens and verbally abuses me. In my absence, she fills my wife’s ears and creates problems. 
How can I get her out of my place? 
Please advise.

Gunda Yohanna Brost · Answer

Legally you may have the right to keep her out of your home but obviously this will create issues with your wife who really should be on board with you and help protect you from her abuse. Nobody deserves to be mistreated. Perhaps you can find an apartment of your own while she’s in town and tell your wife that you will live there instead if she doesn’t help set boundaries with her mother. I’d also talk to a therapist and/or marriage counselor to help your wife and you set boundaries and work as a team in this

Richard Diamond · Answer

There is no "real" legal advice to give in this setting. You are frustrated that your mother-in-law disrupts your household and while staying in your house, it appears that your mother-in-law is ungrateful/disrespectful to you.  
My suggestion is that you sit down with your mother-in-law and your wife and tell both of them that you are ok with her coming to visit but lay out what is not acceptable to you while she visits ( ie what room she stays in, etc) and that if she cannot bite her tongue and be respectful of you, then she is no longer welcome in your house.

James L. Arrasmith · Answer

If your mother-in-law is living in your condominium without your consent and causing disruptions in your life, you may have legal options to remove her from the property. 
 
First, you may want to consult with an experienced attorney to determine your legal rights and options in your specific situation. Depending on the circumstances, you may be able to pursue legal action to evict your mother-in-law from the property. 
 
If you are a condo owner, you may also want to review the condominium association's bylaws and rules to determine if there are any restrictions on long-term guests or occupancy limits. If your mother-in-law is violating the association's rules or regulations, you may be able to seek assistance from the association in removing her from the property. 
 
It is important to note that the eviction process can be complicated and may require legal assistance. You may also want to consider seeking counseling or therapy to address the rift between you and your wife and to find a solution that works for all parties involved.

Q: Mother-in-law disrupts my life by living in my condo for more than 6 months at a clip after being away briefly.