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1 Answer | Asked in Divorce for New Jersey on
Q: in my divorce, my husband had a side business he never paid taxes on but made $80,000 yr. Do I include this as income

My husband is a carpenter in union out of Philadelphia - he also owned a side business that makes $80,000 yr - total $180,000

Do I agree with my lawyer and say he only makes $90,000 per year - and not include the landscaping money - because I will get in trouble for tax evasion- even though... Read more »

Leonard R. Boyer
Leonard R. Boyer
answered on May 17, 2022

Since you are represented by counsel, that is the only person who you should direct your questions to. But if you do not believe that the attorney is acting in your best interests, then you should seek a second opinion.

2 Answers | Asked in Divorce and Family Law for New Jersey on
Q: I filed for a default hearing for my divorce

It’s been over a month and it’s still not scheduled. I call the courts and they say they are just waiting. Is there anything I can do to speed the scheduling up?

Leonard R. Boyer
Leonard R. Boyer
answered on May 12, 2022

The are more steps that have to be followed. Representing yourself in a divorce is unwise. You really need to retain an experienced matrimonial attorney. You are not only emotionally involved, you do not know the Court rules or proper procedures. Trying to save some money can often result in costly... Read more »

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1 Answer | Asked in Child Custody and Divorce for New Jersey on
Q: If we have a son and own a house together. Can I go live somewhere else with my son before the divorce?

Does this will have a bad consequence in the time of custody and division of property?

Is it better for me to wait until we dissolve the marriage and then leave?

Richard Diamond
Richard Diamond
answered on May 11, 2022

You need to sit down with a divorce lawyer before you do anything. Its impossible and irresponsible for any lawyer to give you advice in this setting without having a consultation to get a better understanding of your current setting.

1 Answer | Asked in Divorce for New Jersey on
Q: I am thinking about divorce. Should I pay off my $14,000 car loan to reduce the amount of money that will be split?

I live in New Jersey, a equatable distribution state. Married for 5 years. We don't have children or own a house. Our finance were separate for the most part but I do pay most of our bills including rent, utilities and meals, because my spouse works only part time and do not make enough. I... Read more »

Bari Weinberger
Bari Weinberger
answered on May 3, 2022

Thank you for your question. It is difficult to give you a definitive answer without obtaining additional facts. There are many factors to the equitable distribution statute and without having full financial disclosure, a firm answer is not possible. It would be best to contact an experienced... Read more »

3 Answers | Asked in Divorce and Family Law for New Jersey on
Q: In NJ when paying alimony to a ex can the person doing the paying alimony be effected if they live with someone else?

In NJ when paying alimony to a ex their is the cohabitation clause that states the alimony you are paying can be reduced if the ex receiving the alimony lives with or cohabitates with a new partner. My question is can the alimony be effected by the person paying living with a new partner, it does... Read more »

Richard Diamond
Richard Diamond
answered on May 3, 2022

Yes - because the purpose of the payment of alimony has to do with her financial dependency status as a result of the length of the marriage, the difference between your respective income settings, etc.

Think about the following example:

you were married for 15 years, during which...
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Q: Can I get a divorce from my husband if we live in different states and can't find him. Have had no contact in 10+ years

I have been separated from my husband for 13 years, and have not had any contact with him in over 10 years, and don't know where he is or how to contact him in anyway. We were married in Syracuse NY I now live in NJ.

Leonard R. Boyer
Leonard R. Boyer
answered on May 2, 2022

Yes, it doesn't matter where he lives or if you cannot find him. An experienced matrimonial attorney can handle this obstacle with the proper procedures. The sooner you retain counsel the sooner you will be able to be free to get on with your life.

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1 Answer | Asked in Divorce, Family Law and Child Support for New Jersey on
Q: Would paying CS based on Appendix IX-A & paying for memberships ordered in an MSA constitute a burden to the payor?

Parties entered into an MSA based on 50/50 custody. Plaintiff argued for child support and primary parent rights two years later based upon significant changes and won. Court ordered child support be paid under NJ state guidelines. Plaintiff now wants to enforce MSA that states defendant should... Read more »

Richard Diamond
Richard Diamond
answered on May 2, 2022

Ordinary extracurricular activities are covered in the child support guidelines but if your child's participation in a sports program is an "extraordinary" type of reoccurring expense, it can be addressed separately.

So, the 1st question is whether you agreed to share in...
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1 Answer | Asked in Divorce, Family Law and Child Custody for New Jersey on
Q: NJ, I filed a motion to modify parenting time. We had a oral argument back in January 2022. It's April still no decision

Is there any time frame for decision?

Leonard R. Boyer
Leonard R. Boyer
answered on Apr 19, 2022

This question was previously asked and answered. Repeating it will not change anything.

1 Answer | Asked in Divorce, Family Law and Child Custody for New Jersey on
Q: I filed a motion in NJ to modify parenting time. We had a oral argument back in January 2022. Still no judge decision.

I filed a motion in NJ to modify parenting time. We had a oral argument back in January 2022. It's April still no decision... How long does judge has to rule on the motion? is there a time frame? If not, based on modification child can be enrolled in school district by my residence (Pre-K),... Read more »

Leonard R. Boyer
Leonard R. Boyer
answered on Apr 19, 2022

If you are represented by counsel, you must direct your questions to your attorney. There is a shortage of Judges and the vast majority of Judges and other courts personnel are working remotely, so no, this is not a long period of time for a decision.

2 Answers | Asked in Divorce, Family Law and Child Custody for New Jersey on
Q: NJ, I filed a motion to modify parenting time. We had a oral argument back in January 2022. It's April still no decision

I filed a motion in NJ to modify parenting time. We had a oral argument back in January 2022. It's April still no decision... How long does judge has to rule on the motion? is there a time frame? If not, based on modification child can be enrolled in school district by my residence (Pre-K),... Read more »

Richard Diamond
Richard Diamond
answered on Apr 18, 2022

I would write a letter to the court (always CC your ex simultaneously) reminding the court that it held oral argument of the parenting time and home sale issues on January __ 2022 and that the deadline for enrollment of your child in the school district is XXX and asking for a status update on the... Read more »

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2 Answers | Asked in Civil Litigation and Divorce for New Jersey on
Q: Can French citizens who married in NJ get divorce under NJ law?

We are both French citizens of no immigration status in the US. I reside in France while my husband resides in United Emirate. Can I proceed with divorce in NJ ? Does US have jurisdiction over the assets and properties in France should we get the verdict? Thank you

Teresa L. Reichek
Teresa L. Reichek
answered on Apr 12, 2022

It is unlikely. New Jersey divorces couples who were legally married anywhere, as long as they satisfy the residency requirement. With rare exception, that means that at least once of you would have to live in New Jersey, and have been here for at least 12 consecutive months.

You should...
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4 Answers | Asked in Divorce for New Jersey on
Q: How does one go about getting a divorced spouse to uphold his part of divorce decree, when he is in contempt?

Is there a way without an attorney and additional fees?

Bari Weinberger
Bari Weinberger
answered on Apr 12, 2022

Thank you for your question about enforcing the term of your divorce. In order to enforce your divorce decree, you would need to file a motion with the court to hold your ex-spouse in violation of litigant’s rights and compel them to comply with the provisions. It must be filed with the court... Read more »

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3 Answers | Asked in Divorce and Family Law for New Jersey on
Q: need to modify divorce decree and we both are in agreement. she was granted half my pension but now doesnt want it
Richard Diamond
Richard Diamond
answered on Apr 11, 2022

Not sure why your former spouse has agreed to now waive her claim to share in your retirement benefit but if she is willing to do so, you need to have an amendment drawn up to your settlement agreement reflecting the formal waiver of interest to share in the plan. Simply telling your plan admin at... Read more »

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Q: My wife is planning to leave the country for good with out giving me divorce. How do I get divorce?

My wife is planning to leave the country for good with out giving me divorce. I still have time to serve her divorce papers. If she leaves the country and never returns after I serve the papers, will the court grant me divorce in her absence?

I have 3 kids, and we own a house. She... Read more »

Leonard R. Boyer
Leonard R. Boyer
answered on Apr 2, 2022

What you need to understand is that a Judge, not your wife can give you a divorce. If she's leaving the country and not taking the children or seeking equitable distribution of the house, that works out much better for you than you realize. You need to retain an experienced matrimonial... Read more »

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2 Answers | Asked in Divorce for New Jersey on
Q: What if my wife is refusing to sign divorce papers and has no address to send them to. Can I get it by default?
Teresa L. Reichek
Teresa L. Reichek
answered on Mar 31, 2022

Thank you for your question. I'm sure the situation must be very frustrating for you. You may be able to get a divorce by default, but you have several steps that must be completed first. You will need to do a diligent inquiry as to her whereabouts, then provide proof of same to the court. You... Read more »

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Q: Can I reopen my divorce based on fraud if my ex-husband lied about the value of our business, I have 100% proof.

Our business was worth millions of dollars. The PSA stated the business was to be sold for 1 million and we were both to receive $500k, along with me receiving $375k in lump sum alimony. I was ordered to sign my stock over to his attorney which was to then be sold.

After I signed over my... Read more »

Richard Diamond
Richard Diamond
answered on Mar 29, 2022

Over the course of my career, I have taken close to a dozen cases back to court (post-divorce) to seek to set aside the support and or equitable distribution terms of their settlement agreements based on unconscionability and/or fraud. The most complicated matter was a case from a few years ago,... Read more »

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1 Answer | Asked in Divorce for New Jersey on
Q: My husband abandoned myself and our daughter. How do I file for divorce

How do I file on the grounds of abandonment, verbal abuse and infidelity?

I am disabled and collect social security permanent disability

Richard Diamond
Richard Diamond
answered on Mar 9, 2022

If you wish to proceed pro se, go down to the family intake office in the county courthouse in your county and ask for a pro se package - which will include a form complaint for divorce and instructions on filing. You can also go to the state judiciary website and search for the pro se package, and... Read more »

3 Answers | Asked in Divorce for New Jersey on
Q: can you get divorced in NJ if living in FL

my step daughter married non citizen that cheated on her was not in love with him like she was with him, they have restraining orders on each other because he is a horrible person, hit her, has had 2 kids with other women, used her, my step daughter has not had help from her mom to do anything... Read more »

Richard Diamond
Richard Diamond
answered on Feb 28, 2022

Florida, like New Jersey, requires someone to be a resident of its state for at least 1 year for jurisdictional purposes - meaning the ability to file a complaint for divorce in that state.

So, if your stepdaughter has been living in Florida for more than 1 year, she can file a complaint...
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1 Answer | Asked in Child Custody, Child Support and Divorce for New Jersey on
Q: Divorce, i want my kids 3 nights my ex wants me only to have 1 night and 2 after school/ dinners Should i get a lawyer?

Started meditation we agreed on everything except parenting time .. i would like 3 over nights a week , she wants me to only have one overnight on the weekend and 2 afternoon/ nights during the week but kids have to be home for bed time .. i dont no what to do.. i really dont wanna get lawyers... Read more »

Teresa L. Reichek
Teresa L. Reichek
answered on Feb 22, 2022

Thank you for your question. Negotiating divorce terms can be very stressful and you are to be commended for coming to an agreement on all other issues. According to NJ Statute, it is a matter of public policy to assure that minor children have frequent and continuing contact with both parents... Read more »

1 Answer | Asked in Divorce, Child Custody and Child Support for New Jersey on
Q: How often should a client receive statements from divorce attorney? Haven't received 1 statement since hiring 7 mo ago.

Attorney rarely responds to emails, cancels most scheduled calls, she's not responding to opposing counsels emails or calls. At what point can I file a complaint to the NJ Bar?

Richard Diamond
Richard Diamond
answered on Feb 17, 2022

As a general statement, most lawyers send out statements monthly or every other month. I dont know if you retained a lawyer on a flat fee basis or if you paid a retainer with the lawyer working against the retainer, but the easiest way to find out the status of your setting with counsel is to call... Read more »

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