Q: how do my husband and i change our names even though we live abroad?

A: Changing your names while living overseas can be tricky, but it is possible. Since your marriage certificate only lists your original names, you will likely need to go through a legal name change process rather than just updating documents. Each state has its own requirements, and since you are from Texas and South Carolina, you may need to follow the procedures for those states. Many states allow you to file a petition for a name change through the court system, but this usually requires an appearance, which can be difficult while stationed abroad.

One option is to check if your home states allow name change petitions to be filed remotely or through a representative. Some courts may accept notarized affidavits or video hearings, especially for military personnel. You can also reach out to the U.S. embassy or consulate in your current country to see if they can assist with notarizing documents or guiding you through the process. The military’s legal assistance office on base may also have information on how to handle name changes while overseas.

Once the name change is legally recognized, you can update your passport, Social Security records, and military ID. The Social Security Administration accepts mailed name change requests with the right documents, and the passport office allows updates by mail as well. Be sure to check with your state’s vital records office or court system to confirm the exact steps needed. It may take some extra time and paperwork, but with the right approach, you should be able to complete the process while still stationed overseas.