How would My civilian wife be considered to be the best interest of the children when she doesn't work

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She doesn't have a place to live, she smokes weed, and had another man in our home while the kids were there. She calls me names in front of the kids and yells at them all of time. I am trying to get custody and the grandmother said she would drive here to take care of them is that an option?

Amanda Bowden Johnson · Answer

If you are referring to your wife as a civilian that likely means you are active duty military which right off the bat makes you a less than describable candidate for custody.  You then go on to say something that is completely untrue.  Namely that she yells at the kids all of the time.  She may in fact yell at the children a lot and inappropriately but nobody does anything 'all of the time' - except maybe exist.  When you make statements like that that can not be factually true it calls in to question the accuracy of the rest of your statements.  So bottom line, if you want custody, you need to consult with a family law attorney where the children are currently residing.  Best of luck.

Adam Bull · Answer

These are all issues and facts if proven  are factors for the Court to consider in the best interest of the children.  A parent not working is not a big factor as it is hard to relate to how that would effect the children, and in fact may be a positive for mom if it provides her more time to be with the kids.  As far as her "boyfriend"  the queston is he  a good influence or not on the kids.   
 
Discuss all of these issues with your attorney. Request a drug test of her and the children to determine if she is using around the children.

Q: How would My civilian wife be considered to be the best interest of the children when she doesn't work