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1 Answer | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for North Carolina on
Q: I have a question about kids and visitation with ex husband.

I asked my ex-husband if he could watch our two kids on July 13 when I go out of town for work (a day trip). He told me no, that he would do nothing extra. He will only see them every other weekend and every other Thursday for dinner. I asked about his two weeks in the summer that is in the child... Read more »

Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on May 25, 2022

No, there really isn't.

The court CAN'T make someone care more about their children, or want to have additional time with them. I suppose it is possible that you could rework your custody schedule so that he has 124 overnights per year (which would change his child support...
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Q: Do grandparents get rights in North Carolina?

I have a 13 month old baby girl. Her dad and I recently separated. He is threatening to take me to court so that his dad and stepmom can have rights to our baby. I don’t want my baby anyone near those people and they have disrespected me in so many ways. I’m not keep her away from her dad... Read more »

Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on May 23, 2022

A typical custody order that gives one parent "x" amount of custodial time and the other parent "y" amount of custodial time does NOT have any restrictions about what each parent can do with their respective time. So there is always the real chance that the other parent will... Read more »

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Q: Can I force my teenage son to take a paternity test for an alleged child?

My son wants to be involved , but wasn’t allowed to sign birth certificate and is at the mercy of the teenage moms schedule as to when he can see the baby. He is also only allowed to see the baby at her house when it’s convenient for her. My son is so afraid of upsetting the mother that he... Read more »

Angela L. Haas
Angela L. Haas
answered on Apr 13, 2022

If he can't access the child, he won't be able to get a paternity test, without a court order. He could (through you as his "guardian") file for custody/visitation of the child, and then it would be up to the mother to prove that his is not the father. Once he has access to the... Read more »

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Q: Can my ex-husband dictate who I date and have around my children?

My ex-husband and I officially divorced in January of 2022. We have two children, aged 10 and almost 5. He's gone from being a very cooperative co-parent to a unreasonable co-parent in a matter of 2 weeks. He is now trying to tell me that my children are not allowed at my house because I live... Read more »

Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on Mar 8, 2022

Is there a custody order? Without a custody order explicitly barring either party from exposing the minor children to persons you are dating, there shouldn't be anything stopping you from dating who you want to date and acting in the manner you seem to do doing. That said, there does need to... Read more »

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Q: Child custody. Currently a every other week court ordered agreement but other parent disappears frequently.

We current have an every other week schedule but other parent hasn’t been able to uphold this agreement so I have taken care of the weekly and now they have disappeared multiple weekends and been unable to be contacted or located. Do I have a case to get full custody with limited/supervised... Read more »

Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on Mar 7, 2022

Of course you should consider consulting with a local family law attorney for a better answer, but you likely do have grounds to seek to modify the existing custody order. Despite his recent behavior, I would imagine that a judge thinks this person should still have some contact with their child,... Read more »

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Q: My husband and I have emergency custody of his daughter. Mom wants to take her out to dinner. Should we allow this?

My step-daughter's biological mother was in a bad relationship, got arrested, has done drugs, wrecked her car, threatened to harm herself, and we have had emergency custody since mid-January. Mom is out of jail, and has moved out of the home she shared with her husband. Should we allow her... Read more »

Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on Feb 8, 2022

It is difficult if not impossible to accurately answer this question without a full consultation. That said, I wonder what you are thinking "full" custody actually is, and how realistic it is that you will get it. Mom may not have a strong custody claim, but it seems like she wants to... Read more »

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Q: is it legal for my parents to keep me at home until i graduate even though i will already be 18

i will be 18 in december and i want to move out but i will still have 1 year of high school left. my parents told me i couldnt move out till i graduate. do they have the right to keep me from moving out until i graduate even tho i will already be 18.

Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on Jan 24, 2022

You legally can move out since you are 18, but if you do, your parents could easily stop supporting you, so this is a decision you will have to think carefully about.

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Q: The father of my son served me papers to try for custody where do I go crime here
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on Jan 10, 2022

I'm going to operate under the assumption that the word "crime" in your question was a typo and was meant to say "from."

You will need to try and determine what amount of custody he is seeking, and evaluate whether the two of you can come to an agreement on how to...
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Q: The mother of my child issues to me unfair and lopsided visitation rules when neither of us went to court at all

She also loved to bring up the point that I should be lucky because I could not be seeing him at all I feel that deep down inside this is not legal but I have no knowledge of the judicial system of how to combat this evil

Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on Dec 22, 2021

There isn't really a question here, but it sounds like you need to file for custody and let the court sort it out. I have no idea what sort of 'rules' she is making you follow, but there is a good chance that you aren't being treated fairly. You may not have the resources to... Read more »

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Q: What rights and decisions can I make for my 13yr old son if his dad got full legal custody and I have physical custody?

Can my husband decide discipline and consequences in my home? Does he handle all school decisions or just which school he attends? Can I still take our son to my church?

Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on Dec 8, 2021

Your best bet is to have an attorney review the actual custody order - there is a level of speculation involved when you can't see the order. With that said, you should have control over the day-to-day activities of your son while he is in your custody.

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Q: My son is 15, he resides in North Carolina with his father. I live in louisiana, we have joint custody he has physical

This was my son's choice. He has since sent my son to live with his ex and will not allow him back in his house to live. I want to bring him home to Louisiana. Can I just go get him and is this legal for him to do? My son tried to go back home to his house on Sat and was told he could not stay... Read more »

Jeffrey Berman
Jeffrey Berman
answered on Dec 7, 2021

The answer to your question depends if there is a custody order in place. Both parents are required to follow any Court orders. If one or both parents wish to change the order, a motion needs to be followed with the Courts. If both parents are in agreement, a consent order signed by both parents... Read more »

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Q: I have had my grandson for 1 year now with no contact from his mother and father. What can I file in nc for custody?

I cannot afford an attorney and I've reached out to the local DSS but due to a lawsuit that the mother has against them they will not help us. My grandson is 10 years old and lives every day in fear that his mother will show up to get him. He has told me he would kill himself if he ever had to... Read more »

Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on Nov 5, 2021

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation and sympathetic to what you are going through. That said, while you are clear that you can't afford an attorney, I would strongly advise you to at least pay for a consultation to discuss the complicated issues that go into filing a third-party... Read more »

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Q: Low income legal representation for child custody divorce response to complaints when he kicked me out with no where to
David Allan King
David Allan King
answered on Nov 3, 2021

I'm not aware of any probono divorce lawyers, if that is what the question is asking about. There are pro bono programs for domestic abuse victims, but they usually stick to getting a restraining order and do not touch the divorce items.

While rare, there are some law firms that work...
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Q: I need help responding to a complaint fir divorce and B we have only been apart 4 months and he burnt all my stuff

Lied on je preformed torts against and hot custody of my daughter snd he is not her father

David Allan King
David Allan King
answered on Nov 3, 2021

This is something you need to hire a lawyer for.

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Q: Can the father of my child get joint custody after 8 years of not being In her life
David Allan King
David Allan King
answered on Oct 28, 2021

The court determines matters of custody based on whatever they feel is in the child's best interest under the totality of the circumstances. The father not being involved in the child's life for eight years would certainly be one factor a judge would weigh, but doesn't guarantee anything.

1 Answer | Asked in Divorce, Family Law, Child Custody and Child Support for North Carolina on
Q: My husbands lawyer requested a discovery. Can I request discovery/interrogatories without a lawyer
David Allan King
David Allan King
answered on Oct 10, 2021

Yes, you can send them interrogatories (questions), requests for admission, and requests for production without having a lawyer. Essentially, you are your own lawyer.

1 Answer | Asked in Divorce and Child Custody for North Carolina on
Q: Me and my husband are separated but we don’t have any legal papers or anything. What do I need to do for a court order?

We have 3 kids together. He wants to get them every other weekend and split holidays but he doesn’t have a license so I’m not sure what to do about him getting the kids.

David Allan King
David Allan King
answered on Oct 10, 2021

You have two options to formalize your custody agreement. One is a custody agreement contract. The other is a consent order from the court. Every divorce, even if no disputes are litigated, is technically a lawsuit. You'd have to start the lawsuit first (read lots of formal legal paperwork),... Read more »

1 Answer | Asked in Family Law, Adoption, Child Custody and Military Law for North Carolina on
Q: Can I? And how fast can I adopt my younger brother?

I am in the military, and I want to adop my 15 year old brother. He lives with my stepfather and my mother lives in mexIco. I’m stationed in NC and my brother lives in California. How can I adopt him so I could bring him to live with me.

Elizabeth Fowler Lunn
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Elizabeth Fowler Lunn
answered on Jun 19, 2021

The adoption process is a state law issue and if he currently lives in California then you will need to speak with a family law attorney there. Adoption may not even be necessary, depending on the purpose of the adoption. You may able to just have a custody order. You should also research what... Read more »

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Q: I’m in Nc. I’m trying to buy a house so I can leave my husband, how does that work when your trying to leave to divorce?

I know you have to live apart for a year to file for a divorce and live apart to file for custody of children. I’ve been trying for over a year to find someplace to move to, but because of the size of my family no one wants to rent to us, so I’m trying to buy a house but because I’m still... Read more »

Ben Corcoran
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Ben Corcoran
answered on Apr 22, 2021

You can buy a house in your name only, your marital status has nothing to do with it. A bank may not lend you money without your spouse joining but that is completely up to the bank.

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Q: If my children reside in another state in order for me to fight for custody which state do I have to fight in
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
Mr. Albert Loch Saslow
answered on Mar 17, 2021

Assuming there is no custody case that has already been filed, you would need to file for custody in the jurisdiction where the children have lived for the past six (6) months.

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