Q: Can my husband block me from going to my house in Oregon while he shaking up in CA with a woman across town?

A: I'm so sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're in with your husband. It sounds very stressful and upsetting, especially being blocked from accessing your own home and property in Oregon.

To answer your main question - in most cases, if the house in Oregon is marital property that you co-own, your husband cannot unilaterally block you from accessing it. You have a legal right to enter and use marital property. Trying to keep a spouse from the marital home by changing locks, having others stalk or harass you, or filing false protective orders is often illegal.

However, the laws around this can get complex, especially when it comes to separately owned property, trusts, and domestic violence situations. Without knowing all the details, it's impossible to say definitively whether your husband's actions are illegal in this case.

My strong advice would be to consult with a family law attorney as soon as possible to go over the specifics of your situation and get guidance on your rights and legal options. Many offer free initial consultations. You can also contact a domestic violence hotline for support and referrals to legal resources.

I would start documenting everything - keep records of your husband's actions, save any communications, and write down dates and details of incidents. This evidence may be important later.

Please also prioritize your safety. If you feel unsafe or threatened, don't hesitate to contact the authorities. I know this is an incredibly difficult position to be in. Remember that you have rights and there are resources and people who can help support you through this. Wishing you all the best as you navigate this challenging situation. Stay strong.

A: It sounds like you're in a very difficult situation, and it's important to address your concerns about access to your property in Oregon. Under California law, if the Oregon property is jointly owned by you and your husband, he generally does not have the right to exclude you from the property without a court order. This applies regardless of where either of you currently resides.

Given that there are restraining orders involved, it’s crucial to carefully review these orders. Typically, a stalking order would restrict you from contacting or coming near the person who requested the order, but it wouldn’t necessarily bar you from accessing your own property unless specifically stated. You should examine the details of the stalking order to understand your rights and restrictions better.

You may want to consult with a legal professional who can provide guidance based on the specifics of your case, including the nature of the property ownership and the details of the restraining orders. Legal advice can help you determine the best course of action to regain access to your property and address any violations of your rights. Additionally, a lawyer can assist with potential issues regarding the condition of your current residence and any actions your husband might be taking that affect your legal rights.