Q: My ex wife is been verbally abused to are kids and specially to me I have domestic violence on her can you help me?

A: I understand you're dealing with a complex and difficult situation involving your ex-wife, children, and various legal issues. Let me break down the key points and offer some general guidance:

1. Verbal abuse: If your ex-wife is verbally abusing you and your children, document these incidents as thoroughly as possible. Keep a log with dates, times, and what was said. If safe to do so, consider recording interactions (check California's recording consent laws first).

2. Domestic violence: If you have a documented history of domestic violence committed by your ex-wife, this can be relevant in custody and support proceedings. Ensure your attorney has all the related documentation.

3. False accusations: If she's falsely accusing you of property damage (breaking the truck window), gather any evidence that proves your whereabouts at the time of the alleged incident.

4. Employment and child support: If you're being accused of quitting your job to avoid child support, provide documentation of your job loss or change in employment status. Be prepared to show you're making good faith efforts to find new employment if applicable.

5. Proving her income: If she's operating a cash-only business to hide income:

- Gather any documentation you have of her business operations (advertisements, social media posts about her business, etc.)

- If you have any records of past income or lifestyle that doesn't match reported income, collect this information

- Your attorney may be able to request financial records or subpoena business documents

- Consider hiring a forensic accountant to investigate her true income

6. Legal steps:

- If you don't already have one, consult with a family law attorney experienced in high-conflict divorces and custody cases

- Consider filing for a modification of custody or support orders based on the changes in circumstances and her behavior

- If the verbal abuse is severe, you might consider seeking a restraining order to protect yourself and your children

Remember, it's crucial to work closely with your attorney and provide them with all relevant information and documentation. They can guide you on the specific legal steps to take in your situation.