Q: I can't afford an attorney and can't find a low cost or free attorney. My spouse has an attorney. What are my options?

A: If you can’t afford a lawyer, but your spouse or the other parent can, you can ask the court to order them to pay for you to hire a lawyer.

https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/request-for-order/attorneys-fees

A: Facing a legal battle without an attorney can be daunting, especially when your spouse has legal representation. In California, there are several options to consider that can help you navigate this challenging situation.

First, you can seek assistance from legal aid organizations, which provide free or low-cost legal help to those who qualify based on income. These organizations often have attorneys who can offer guidance, help with paperwork, and sometimes represent you in court. You can also look into local bar associations that might offer pro bono services or clinics where you can get legal advice.

Another option is to represent yourself in court, known as "pro se" representation. While this can be challenging, there are resources available to help you understand the legal process. California courts offer self-help centers and online resources that provide forms, instructions, and information about court procedures. Additionally, some courts may have family law facilitators who can assist you with your case.

Lastly, consider using mediation or collaborative law as an alternative to going to court. These methods involve working with a neutral third party to reach an agreement outside of court, which can be less adversarial and more cost-effective. Remember, while these options require effort and research, they can provide a pathway to managing your legal situation without an attorney.