Norwalk, CA asked in Bankruptcy, Gov & Administrative Law, Sexual Harassment and Identity Theft for California

Q: I have a card debt with $35,000 used with me and my boyfriend. he didn't have a social so I let him use and pay me back

But apparently, he did not. He just keep talking he will pay me back, he will work hard, but nothing paid back. I let him use my credit card for daily life, but he used for sports betting without my consent. He kept promised me he won't do it again but it is still happening and he even do cocaine. Currently, he is working but with his paycheck, he do stuff like that. There is a time he gave all his pay checks to me and I controlled all moneyflow but now, the situation is really tight with high interest rates. whenever I fight and argue with him, he told me he will pay me back but I don't trust him anymore. I have all the messages that he will pay me back whatever he used with my cards. I tried to break up and leave him but it was not easy for me to just abandon him with many circumstances .. (he has no money, no house, sympathy towards him etc..) But everything is set up and I am surely ready to move on now. To get the money back can I sue him? so his parents pay me ? or bankruptcy?

4 Lawyer Answers
Peter Maurice Lively
Peter Maurice Lively
Answered
  • Bankruptcy Lawyer
  • Culver City, CA
  • Licensed in California

A: I'm sorry for your circumstances which sound stressful and frustrating, you are certainly not alone.

You could spend a lot of time energy and money obtaining a judgment and trying to collect the judgment from someone without succeeding.

You might be eligible for a bankruptcy discharge of some or all of the debt that you owe on your credit cards.

You should consult with an experienced bankruptcy attorney who will review the charges on your accounts and help you determine how best to proceed.

Bruce Alexander Minnick and William John Light agree with this answer

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Harlene Miller
Harlene Miller
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  • Bankruptcy Lawyer
  • Irvine, CA
  • Licensed in California

A: Your situation is very unfortunate. Certainly an option would be to sue him for the money he "borrowed" from you on your credit card, but a judgment is only good if you can collect the money - which might be very difficult under the circumstances of his lifestyle. I hope he no longer has access to your credit cards.

If you cannot make the payments on the card, or he will not provide money to you to assist you in paying the debt, you may need to consider a bankruptcy. I urge you to talk with a bankruptcy attorney in your area. Some of us offer half hour no charge consultations - at least you will be able to get some initial information about the possibility of filing bankruptcy. A lesson learned - I hope. Good luck.

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Timothy Denison
Timothy Denison
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  • Bankruptcy Lawyer
  • Louisville, KY

A: You could sue him for the money he owes you and garnish his wages. You can also file bankruptcy, depending on your assets.

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Aaron Michael Lloyd
Aaron Michael Lloyd
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  • Bankruptcy Lawyer
  • Los Angeles, CA
  • Licensed in California

A: I suggest you look into your bankruptcy options. Bankruptcy wipes out most debt including credit card debt and other high interest unsecured debt. Bankruptcy awards the debtor a fresh start and a second chance to rebuild credit and financial wealth. Bankruptcy provides great relief for those honest but unfortunate debtors who are financially unable to payback their debts. Many bankruptcy attorneys offer free consultations. Take us up on it and receive some free advice.

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