J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer It is certainly possible for mediation to be successful. However, from my experience, mediation requires that both spouses be reasonable in their thinking, and free from significant emotional impairments. Your description of your husband does not lend itself to his being a mediation candidate.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer You really should at least consult with a divorce lawyer. The fact that the two of you agreed upon the terms of your divorce is not enough. You only get one shot at doing this right. There are no dress rehearsals. In addition, his retirement account(s) are nothing to treat lightly. You will likely need the protection of a Qualified Domestic Relation Order, and a lawyer is definitely needed for this.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer If both of the YY's in your question are the same number, then you will get 100% of the principal reduction that accumulated since the divorce. Your lawyer did a good job spelling it out.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer If your son is the title holder to your home, the other attorney has every right to join your son as a third-party Respondent in your divorce case. I doubt if there is a valid defense to the Motion.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer It is unethical for an attorney to represent both sides of a divorce (or any other) case. It often happens that one lawyer handles the whole thing, but that can only happen when the lawyer represents only one of the spouses.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer You could dismiss your case in AR, and then refile in IL. However, doing so could be a problem because the IL court probably doesn't have jurisdiction of your husband's person (based on the scant facts you have provided). You might have to go back to AR for your court appearances, and get divorced there. You really have to explain all of your facts to a divorce lawyer in person to get an accurate answer.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer While 50-50 divisions of property are very common, they are not always 50-50. The circumstances of the case could warrant a 60-40, 65-35, 70-30 or a 75-25 division. Explain your particular facts to a divorce lawyer to see what you can expect. However, you do not lose any of your entitlement if you move out.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer Illinois no longer uses the term "custody." It is now referred to as "parenting time", and this can be set and/or allocated between the parents by a court Order during the pendency of a case. It would be a temporary Order, which would be in effect until the case is finalized.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer You are entitled to file either way. However, if you file individually, and this causes more of a loss to the marital estate than filing jointly would, your spouse can go to court to compel you to file an amended joint return. At that point, you would sort out how to equalize the refund or how much he should pay you to make up for what you lost by filing jointly.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer It is not unusual for the spouse remaining in the home to resist the other spouse's reentry. She is likely concerned about a display of bitterness, a perceived invasion of privacy, or that you might remove more than your designated items. On the other hand, requiring professional movers is a bit overboard. You might suggest to her that she have family members or neighbors present to witness your item removal. Otherwise, have a judge specify the method of your removal process.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer Child support must be paid until the child reaches 18 or graduates from high school, whichever is last to occur. However, the court will likely take the new circumstance into account. It's up to the judge. How much is the obligor parent contributing to the college expenses? Is the child boarding at college, or living with the obligee parent?
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer The only way to gain access to his tax returns without his voluntarily showing them to you is to do it through the court. You would have to file a case involving money (e.g. child support modification), and Petition the court to require him to sign an IRS Consent form. Then, you send the form to the IRS, and they'll send you an abstract of his returns for the years you specify. They actually respond fairly quickly.
J. Richard Kulerski Esq.'s answer Contact the bar association in your county, and ask for their direction. Be aware, however, that you may not qualify for an annulment. Based on the few facts you have provided, you would probably be safer filing for a divorce.
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