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1 Answer | Asked in Child Custody, Child Support, Domestic Violence and Family Law for New York on
Q: My ex is incarcerated and it was a domestic violence situation . His mother is requesting custody . Can I ignore this ?

My ex is arrested for attempted murder . He also abused me and his mom was aware that I could not escape the situation easily . She has never met our baby , called or texted me. 3 years later she is trying to serve me with papers for custody / Visitation. Can I just ignore this request ? It is not... Read more »

Sandra M. Colatosti
Sandra M. Colatosti
answered on Oct 3, 2022

You must appear in court to answer the petition. The fact that she is petitioning for custody does not mean that she will be given custody. Because she is a non-parent, she would have to first show extraordinary circumstances, such as abandonment or neglect on your part. She would then have to... Read more »

2 Answers | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: Hey so my father in law has full sole custody of my niece. the mother signed her over cause it was either my father in

law gets it or oe adoption she chose him . She thinks that she can get her back if she goes to the court and she gets vitiation rights. But she is drug attic has no place for this child. will she be able to get her back. and she also lost her first child also to cps and drugs. you can look her name... Read more »

Mary Theresa Colwell
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Mary Theresa Colwell
answered on Sep 29, 2022

Were her rights terminated or did she simply sign over custody in court memorialized in a custody order? Parents’ rights to custody off their child is supreme to anyone provided she shows it’s in the best interest of the child and if there has been a change in circumstances (assuming her... Read more »

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2 Answers | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: Hey so my father in law has full sole custody of my niece. the mother signed her over cause it was either my father in

law gets it or oe adoption she chose him . She thinks that she can get her back if she goes to the court and she gets vitiation rights. But she is drug attic has no place for this child. will she be able to get her back. and she also lost her first child also to cps and drugs. you can look her name... Read more »

Sandra M. Colatosti
Sandra M. Colatosti
answered on Sep 29, 2022

It seems unlikely if she has an untreated drug problem and no proper housing for the child.

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1 Answer | Asked in Contracts, Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: If a couple that is separated writes a parental agreement contract, can the cops get involved if one disobeys it?

Without going to court my ex and I would like something, such as a parental agreement stating who has the kids and when. If we make a contract ourselves and sign it, if one threatens to keep the kids can the police get involved? Will it hold up in court?

Sandra M. Colatosti
Sandra M. Colatosti
answered on Sep 24, 2022

No, the cops won’t get involved unless there is a court order. What you have in mind has no legal effect. Better to go to court and get a custody order.

2 Answers | Asked in Child Custody and Divorce for New York on
Q: My 15 years old daughter is manipulated by her uncle. I am trying to get custody. How will I keep uncle away?

I filed divorce. My wife is using her brother to detach my children from me. I can prove that.

Sandra M. Colatosti
Sandra M. Colatosti
answered on Sep 12, 2022

Custody can be determined in your divorce proceeding either by agreement or by trial. If you and your wife are unable to agree to a custody that you like, you would benefit from retaining an attorney if you hav not done so already.

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1 Answer | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: I cared for child since moved in my home at week old because mother wouldn't mother lived in home as well she took child

Won't let me see child been 21 days my lawyer hasn't done nothing and childs lawyer hasn't

Sandra M. Colatosti
Sandra M. Colatosti
answered on Sep 8, 2022

You can a petition in Family Court for visitation

1 Answer | Asked in Child Custody and Family Law for New York on
Q: How extra marital relationship effect for child custody?
Mary Theresa Colwell
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Mary Theresa Colwell
answered on Sep 4, 2022

The fact that your spouse had an extra marital affair does not in and of it’s self render him/her an unfit parent. You should speak to experienced family attorney to determine if there are any aspects of the relationship, or the individuals in particular, that would impact the best interests of... Read more »

2 Answers | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: Is this considered relocation with the children without the other parent permisssion?

My ex boyfriend and his fiancee bought a home in CT about six months after we agreed on joint custody. It seems he has plans for the kids to live there with him but will not admit it. He lived in a 2bd room house in the bronx (owned by his mother who lives elsewhere) and moved some of his and the... Read more »

Lawrence Allen Weinreich
Lawrence Allen Weinreich
answered on Aug 31, 2022

If he is taking them to school every day from CT then yes they have moved. If it is only on Monday after a weekend in CT then it probably isn't a move. It depends on where the children reside during the week. On the facts presented it is difficult to give an accurate answer. Speak to the... Read more »

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2 Answers | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: Looking for a lawyer to represent my daughter. It's a child custody case where the father is a narcissistic
Kevin M. Colwell
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Kevin M. Colwell
answered on Aug 31, 2022

You are well served with an attorney experienced in the area of family law. I am happy to have an intake specialist contact you if you wish to provide your contact information. Message our firm if you are interested in a free initial consultation. This is a common characteristic in many of our... Read more »

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3 Answers | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: My child's mother gave custody to her mother when I went to jail for a month. Shouldn't I have custody now that I'm out
Mary Theresa Colwell
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Mary Theresa Colwell
answered on Aug 31, 2022

If custody was transferred via a court order, you may be able to petition for a modification of custody. It is unclear from your question whether your custody rights were ever terminated or whether mom had sole legal custody and your rights were never affected. There are certain criteria that need... Read more »

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2 Answers | Asked in Divorce, Family Law, Child Custody and Child Support for New York on
Q: My lawyer has filed a motion to relieve themselves from my case, because I am no longer abler to pay the bills

I'd like to keep my lawyer on, and work on payment later. Without my lawyer I don't think I stand a chance. What can I do to oppose my lawyer's motion to be relieved?

Howard E. Knispel
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Howard E. Knispel
answered on Aug 30, 2022

No one should be forced to work for free, and that goes for any profession, including lawyers. Your attorney deserves to be paid and does not have to agree to any payment plan. If he or she does it is voluntary on them. Find a way to pay them or find a new attorney.

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3 Answers | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: I have an order of protection against my girlfriend, but would like to be able to see my baby. How can I do it?

We had a domestic dispute last fall and she stabbed me. This was in Auburn NY. I have since moved back to the Bronx. She had our baby in June. She is in touch by text with my mom, but not me. She is open to visitation but in March, the judge in Auburn finalized an order of protection for 5... Read more »

Mary Theresa Colwell
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Mary Theresa Colwell
answered on Aug 25, 2022

You may file for an Order of Custody and Visitation in the County where the child resides if you are listed in the birth certificate. If not, you may need to start with a Petition for a determination of paternity then move on to custody/visitation. While the Order of Protection is in place, you... Read more »

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2 Answers | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: If my kids were taken out the country with there mother without my consent and we have joint custody?

I'm asking because I have reason to believe she has. She asked me to sign some papers, I asked her where she was going. Here response was it's none of my business.

Sandra M. Colatosti
Sandra M. Colatosti
answered on Aug 2, 2022

Unless the order states that the children cannot be removed from the country, state, area, etc., there is no prohibition against taking the children out of the country without the other parent's consent. It becomes a problem if the relocates the children to another country permanently.

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1 Answer | Asked in Child Custody for New York on
Q: My kids are 13 yrs old and 15 yrs old. If they want to stay with me, can I get full custody? I am in New York.

I am father.

Sandra M. Colatosti
Sandra M. Colatosti
answered on Jul 30, 2022

They are at an age at which their wishes about whom to live with would be given greater weight. However, it would be just one of the factors the court would consider. You first would have to show a change in circumstances, that being the children’s desire to live with you. You then would have to... Read more »

1 Answer | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: I want the my 2 boys 9&10 to fly on a direct flight from nyc to houston Texas where I reside .

I want the my 2 boys 9&10 to fly on a direct flight from nyc to Houston Texas where I reside . The mother said if the boys wanted to she would be on board . I offered to pay all flight cost and her gas tolls or Am track tickets from Albany to nyc . She now has changed her feelings even... Read more »

Howard E. Knispel
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Howard E. Knispel
answered on Jul 25, 2022

Is there anything addressing this issue in your custody order? You may need to go to court to modify the order if so. Talk to a NY lawyer.

1 Answer | Asked in Child Custody for New York on
Q: Does he get visitation both from 7:30am-4:30pm on Friday, and then also the holiday schedule 6pm to 1pm the next day?

I am the custodial parent to my son, and his father is non-custodial. He unofficially takes him every friday from 7:30am until 4:30pm. (This was verbally agreed on, but not filed in our court order). His father also gets visitation on December 23rd at 6pm until December 24th at 1pm.

Sandra M. Colatosti
Sandra M. Colatosti
answered on Jul 25, 2022

For the visitation schedule to be enforceable, either you or the father would have to file a petition with Family Court and an order issued.

1 Answer | Asked in Adoption, Child Custody and Family Law for New York on
Q: Is the absence of a non custodial parent, reason enough to change the child’s last name to that of the custodial parent?

Non custodial parent has not made contact in a year. They have a history of disappearing for years at a time.

Lawrence Allen Weinreich
Lawrence Allen Weinreich
answered on Jul 11, 2022

The short answer is no.

1 Answer | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: Can I move out of state with the child if both parents signed a noterized custody agreement giving me custody

They gave me permission to make any and all decisions about the child.That the child lives with me and I make decisions regarding doctors, education etc

Peter Christopher Lomtevas
Peter Christopher Lomtevas
answered on Jul 1, 2022

The signed and acknowledged agreement must do more than give "custody." It must specifically state that relocation is agreed upon, and to bolster its validity, the agreement should include a visitation plan for the stay-behind parent. There should also be a passport authority statement in... Read more »

1 Answer | Asked in Child Custody and Family Law for New York on
Q: Should an unwed mother file for sole custody as a preventative measure?

My friend and her boyfriend had a child (born in SC - just over a year old) and they have since broken up due to some domestic violence issues. He was arrested for possession of drugs and a weapon and is in jail waiting a trial date. My friend has moved back home to New York but has not been able... Read more »

Peter Christopher Lomtevas
Peter Christopher Lomtevas
answered on Jun 29, 2022

No. The mother's better course is to do nothing. If the father petitions, then the fights begin. The mother should not start a confrontation when one is not needed.

3 Answers | Asked in Family Law and Child Custody for New York on
Q: Does 3 non consecutive weeks of vacation access for both parents mean 1 week time frames or 21 days as the parent wants

We have an agreement that states 3 non consecutive weeks. My ex-wife sees this as an opportunity to take 21 days as she sees fit. I have been instructed this is incorrect and am looking for further advice

Howard E. Knispel
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Howard E. Knispel
answered on Jun 28, 2022

Non-consecutive means not in a row. Normally that would mean 3 separate weeks, however, it can br intertpreted to allow 2 consecutive weeks, but not 3. You should consult a local attorney to go over your specific matter.

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