We are going through a nasty divorce which entails financial abuse, psychological abuse, mental abuse and sexual abuse. I told him and his then attorney (now fired or she quit, not sure which) that I was not going to file a joint tax return. I found out that he filed a joint return without my... Read more »

Your question is difficult to answer because your husband could not have filed a joint return properly without obtaining your signature on the joint return.
My lawyer is asked by the judge to submit extensions for my spouse's order of protection because they don't have an attorney. Isn't this a conflict of interest for me, and can't I just have my attorney not do it?

There is no conflict of interest. Your lawyer could hardly say no to the judge under these circumstances. It's a mere courtesy to the court.
I retired in 2018. I receive VA disability pay for an 80% rating. I also receive a military pension. As part of a divorce, I must pay 40% of my gross mil pension to ex spouse. Is it possible to waive mil pension in exchange for exclusively receiving VA comp in order to discontinue paying out to ex... Read more »

If you are above a 60% rating, then you receive concurrent payments. You receive your disability and your retirement. You can not waive the retirement portion to receive disability above what you are already receiving.
I'm not even sure divorce is the answer for me but I don't want my kids and I to be left with nothing and I feel like he would do his best to leave us begging for air. If I bought land with my own savings could I gift it to my children so that he couldn't take it but the kids (and I)... Read more »

You mention using your own savings. If the savings came from money earned during the marriage, then it would not be your savings, it would be marital savings. If you bought land with it, the land would be a marital asset and therefore subject to division at the time of divorce.
He will seek for full custody of my son. And will make things hard for him to sign divorce papers. I really need guidance. And and idea of how much will this cost me.

The best guidance I can suggest is for you to contact a local divorce lawyer, and explain ALL of the facts to him/her. You really have not provided us with enough info to assist you properly. It is not uncommon for a bully-type husband to make the threat about custody. Divorce lawyers hear this... Read more »
We have been having problems for a while now, I got my Green card a few months ago and last month, I got divorce papers from his lawyer. I didn't even know he was filing for a divorce. He got my stimulus second stimulus check last month and refused to give it to me but he's still... Read more »

Morning, please contact our office to set up a 30-minute free consultation.
Our # is 847-705-8000.
My ex violated the OP by sending me a letter and now his lawyer is emailing and sent letter to my lawyer with crazy demands. It feels like to punish me for reporting the violation. They are expecting me to give my ex my banking info so he does not have to mail me support monthly. What they are... Read more »

Please contact my office to set up a free 30-minute consultation with Mrs. Andrea Heckman.
847-705-8000.

Yes, unless they file a Petition with the court to suspend the support while they incapacitated. Without such a filing, the support continues to be due.
The sheriff did not leave anything. My father told me that the sheriff said that I can pick the summons up at a court house. Is this considered the proper way of severing someone with a summons to go to court. I'm assuming this is for a divorce. Thank in advance!

The Sheriff acted properly. When he/she learned that you did not reside at your father's residence, he/she merely made a suggestion that you pick up the papers via counter-service at the Sheriff's office. You are not bound to do so, but if you don't, the person suing you will... Read more »
They used an attorney, saw a mediator and amicably settled after 50 yrs of marriage, in 2006.
Documents I have: Case No. 06 D 003500
- Petition by my mother, stamped 3/29/2006, Dorothy Brown, Clerk/Circuit Court
- Verified Joint Petition for Dissolution of Marriage, stamped... Read more »

The Verified Petition of Dissolution and unsigned documents are meaningless. You need a cetified copy of the Judgment for Dissolution of Marriage signed by the judge.
I have been brought up negatively in multiple court docs and lawyer to lawyer emails. I have never had interaction with the ex. For example he won't let me babysit their children, but they can live in my house once divorce is settled. Calls people who can watch his kids as responsible adults?... Read more »

First, this is not a question for Justia's divorce lawyers. You should redirect it to the libel/slander or injury lawyers.
Second, you have not given enough facts to warrant a responsible answer. You should meet in person with an attorney who does this work, so you can explain... Read more »
When do we start the divorce start date, when were last intimate or when we talked about it last oct 20th

Neither of the two criteria you mentioned has any bearing on the divorce "start date". The total process is too lengthy to explain in this forum. Whether you have to stay in IL depends on some facts that you have not provided, e.g., are children involved? Are you willing to return to IL... Read more »

We will be happy to represent you, please 847-705-8000.

Well, then you are very fortunate that neither your husband nor his family will be the judge hearing your case. Don't let them bluff or bully you. What you are hearing from them is a very common and stupid threat, which mean nothing.
Married for approximately 16 years and soon to be 17 years and I just want out of the marriage. How can you help me at this point ?

You will have to call some lawyers in your area. They will want this information at a minimum. Is there a marital residence? Children? Pensions, 401k's? Husband's income vs. Wife's income for alimony? Will spouse agree?
The petition says that we tried to reconcile, but we didn't.

Please call our office to set up a 30-minute free consultation to meet with Mrs. Andrea Heckman. We will be happy to assist you.

If your spouse lives in Illinois you should be able to file for divorce in the county in which your spouse lives.

Your child support is determined by the last court order. It doesn't change just because a parent moves from one state to another.
My question is did I do anything illegal by calling to oppose of going to the court house?

What you did is not illegal.
some personal belongings ... she brought some unfamiliar faces with her - I have never seen them or met them even in our marriage reception I don't see them in pictures .. Her name is still on the lease ... How can I make them give me state issued IDs before they enter the Appartment .. I had... Read more »

You have absolutely NO right to see their ID's. She can bring anyone she wishes into the marital apartment, and so can you. Your position is dead wrong.
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