New York Domestic Violence Questions & Answers
Q: I was in a relationship with someone for 8 months he used me for money what can i do
He would say he loved me or he couldn't wait to wake up next to me every morning i have brain cancer and i loved him in july he borrowed 1,300 dollars he emotionally destroyed me he took my fight to live i was advised to take him to civil court to get my money by a state trooper he told hed pay me... Read more »
The amount involved is small claims level if you want to sue to recover. Run your credit report and put a fraud alert on it if you believe he stole your number. Notify the card companies and get new cards.
Q: Is it battery to forcibly grab someone's phone from their hand and refuse to give it back unless a video is deleted?
In NYC, my boyfriend forcibly grabbed my phone out of my hand after I advised him that I was recording him during an argument. He wouldn't give the phone back unless I deleted the video. Is that battery or another cause of action?
Yes, it could be a basis hypothetically, Non-consensual contact may be made with either a person or that person's extended personality, The example I recall from school was that of a plate being taken by force form someones hands. Another common example is a necklace another object extending the... Read more »
Q: No contact orders and the District Attorney
My husband was arrested over a domestic dispute and is being charged with Endangering the welfare of a child and criminal obstruction of breathing. Both A class Misdemeanors. Upon his arraignment he was served a no contact order that he cannot contact me or our daughter. I contacted the assistant... Read more »
These questions should be directed to his lawyer
Q: My husband was arrested and arraigned for a domestic dispute
He was charged with two class A misdemeanors. One being criminal obstruction of breath and the other endangering the welfare of a child. Upon arraignment they put a no contact order in effect so that he can’t contact me or our daughter. I contacted the assistant district attorney in charge of the... Read more »
If you want him home there is a good chance that the order of protection will be modified.
Q: How can i file contempt on my ex husband for not letting me see my son while im in another state
my son is 8 i had him most his life his dad was big on drugs etc i thought he had cleaned up his act but he hasnt i am not sure what to do he is barely letting me see him or talk to him and my son says he hits him... im worried scared and im in NY due to some stuff ill be moving here and want my... Read more »
You file a petition in family court in the county where your son resides (Cattaraugas County). But which petition? If there was no court ordered custody arrangement, you file a petition for custody/visitation. If there was a court order (or it's contained in a divorce decree) you file a petition... Read more »
Q: I would like to obtain an order of protection how do i go about that?
My biological mother wont leave me alone via text. I have told her to leave me alone and stop contacting me. In emails from previous years has been verbally abusive towards me. She uses my brother as a way to get to me even though I know she is brainwashing him. Should I go to the police regarding... Read more »
What you can do is file for an order of protection in family court.
Q: Help, my ex violates the custody order all the time and then when I do not agree to his demands, he calls cops?
Blames me for everything, calls me names, doesn't follow the order, the order his lawyer omitted parts that were agreed upon. My lawyer stopped calling me back, I have tried 5 times since the end of March. Been going through this for 3 years, our son is 3 1/2, I get followed by his father and who... Read more »
If he is following you around (need to have dates when you saw him) and he constantly calls cops when you don't agree to his demands, you probably need to file for an order of protection. As for omitted parts of an order, if the agreement was in court, you can get a transcript and refile the order... Read more »
Q: How can I get domestic violence charges dropped
My boyfriend was charged with harassment 2
I spoke to DA and said I didnt want to pursue it but he said the state is involved so he won't drop charges
Most cases can't be prosecuted without the complaining witness (you). So, if you really do not want to pursue it, do not sign the supporting deposition. If you already did that, do not show up in court or speak with the ADA again.
Q: Victim wants to drop a legal case on me and i currently have warrant due to her false statement from mental health.
How can we go about dropping case without having to go to court ? I am a single mom to my twin baby girls and cant afford to go to jail because of false accusations against me ! Victim wants to drop everything due to the fact she admitts being very mentally unstable at the time how can i get help ?
You should have an attorney contact the detective handling the case. If there is a warrant for your arrest, an attorney can speak with the detective about the victim’s unwillingness to go forward. If a complaint is already made, you very well may have to go through with the arrest and then it is... Read more »
Q: If you have had a past arrest of d.v. And went through all of the court stipulations and the court dropped it.
Can they bring it back up on a new charge of dv? Even thou it was dropped
If there is a new allegation of domestic violence, then there can be a new charge as well. Your question is unclear as to what exactly the circumstances are, but you can certainly face new charges if additional allegations are raised.
Q: What are the laws against verbal abuse - can I still call the cops?
You can potentially call the cops if it rises to the level of harassment or threats.
Q: Can a 16 yr old be arrested in NYS for hitting his father? The cops have not and it has happened twice now. They say it
Is a domestic matter. What does that mean? What about me? Is it ok for him to hit me too? If we defend ourselves then we will be arrested?
File a petition in Family Court for an order of protection (OP). If he hits you while you have an OP they must arrest him. Have you tried therapy for him?
Q: Does emotional abuse count as "domestic violence" in New York?
Emotional abuse can be considered domestic violence. However, if you are speaking in terms of criminal charges, then the threshold is not quite the same as physical abuse.
Q: Domestic violence stranglation charge
Mother of my kids has charged me with domestic violence and strangling she has sent me a text stating she had to lie in order to move back in with her mother will this help me and will this hurt her in the long run
Yes, this can certainly help your case. Save the messages and show them to your attorney.
Q: What are the next steps after my husband is arrested (against my wishes) for a DV misdemeanor (taking my cell phone)?
Queens, NY The detective has been harassing us, sending fake wanted fliers (for grand larceny???) to his cell phone and intimidating him to turn himself in although no charges were made and no crime was committed. No violence whatsoever, the argument got heated and I told the cops he took my cell... Read more »
Once your husband is assigned an attorney, you should speak to him/her to express that you do not want to go forward with the case. At this point, you have no obligation to speak with the District Attorney's Office and you are free to tell them that you do not wish to go forward with the case.... Read more »
Q: Can I get more time from family court, to amend my original filing, after defendant filed a response?
I filed for protection for my daughter because of abuse.
Her mother's attorneys have filed a voluminous counter.
Two days before the day of the hearing.
Can I get an adjournment so that I can prepare an amendment to my original filing?
Yes, you should make an application for an adjournment to amend your petition and to prepare to the counter petition. You may make the application at the next court conference or hearing date.
Q: Can I drop domestic violence charges on my 16yr old son. He was asked to go live with his dad multiple times and refused
He laughed and got verbally and physically aggressive and was destructive. He did not hurt me. I had him arrested. He now resides with his dad and we have a court date on his birthday. I don't want to ruin his future with an arrest record.
You can't "drop" the charges, but you can relate your wishes to the prosecutor, for the prosecutor to consider in determining what to do. You can also refuse to participate in the prosecution. Speak to your son's attorney to get some direction from him or her.
Q: I left an abusive relationship and the father has been witholding my children from me. Can I get them back
He has a lawyer, I do not. Police here told me I could take them and not return them until court. I did so and an emergency hearing was held and I now only have three days a week while he is at work I need advice on how to get my children back . I have police reports, logs of harassment And he has... Read more »
Not to be trite, but you do need an attorney. You need to file a petition for custody and prove that it would be in the best interest of the children for you to have residential custody of the children.
Q: How do I drop a 1 year permanent restraining order? What are the chances the judge will drop or modify this order?
I filed a restraining order on my fiance a couple of months ago after a heated break-up. I have never been to court before and was unsure what the proper steps were, so I ended up agreeing to 1 yr permanent restraining order. I waived my rights to counsel, which im now realizing, was a mistake.... Read more »
If you received the OP (order of protection) in District Court contact the assistant district attorney.
If you received it in Family Court then contact the court and ask how to file a petition to have it dismissed.
Q: My neighbor walked into my house uninvited and beat up my brother and left the property. Why wasn't he arrested?
The cops never questioned him and told me they couldn't arrest him even though their were witnesses who saw him come into my house
There probably was not probably cause at the time to make an arrest, absent a complainant. You have a viable complaint for trespassing and your brother has one for assault/battery. Thus, you or your brother needs to file a report/information/complaint with the Police Department OR directly to the... Read more »
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